A few weeks ago I was cleaning out the lower cabinets in my kitchen. I had taken everything out, wiped out the caninets, but hadn’t replaced it all yet. Sitting on the floor in front of the the dishwasher was the fire extinguisher I normally keep under the kitchen sink. When I sent one of the kids in to unload, the dishwasher door came down on the extingusher. It went off with a loud PHSSSSSHHHHHH and coated EVERYTHING in my house with a fine whitish-yellow powder. Every thing.

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The cabinets and drawers I had just cleaned now had to be clean again along with the walls, window blinds, appliances, furniture. It was unbelievable.

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This drawer had been shut and yet it was still covered.  The only thing we could do was haul everything out to the deck and start washing.

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And wash we did. All together it took about a week to get the house cleaned up and everything washed and put back in place. Steve was out of town when this happened, and having a team of able bodied individuals was a tremendous blessing. (ok, the 2 younger ones didn’t help quite as much, but they did unload the dishwasher many times over.) I think my kids washed more walls and dishes and floors than they thought possible. Let me just publicly state how grateful I am to have a big family and a smaller house, though that bit about the smaller house might pass when the holidays roll around.

Living landlocked is hard when you’ve had an ongoing love affair with the beach your whole life. Or course, I am talking about myself. My kids have all grown up in the midwes, and except for annual trips back east to visit family,  a landlocked state is all they’ve ever known.

But Joel and Dad took a little detour to southern California this past spring, and I don’t think either one of  them have ever been the same. Why just the other night we walked by some fresh avocados in Wal-mart, and Steve mentioned how good Mrs. R’s (CA. host family) avocado dip was.  And the two of them go on and on about the gorgeous weather and the flower scented air.

So, for Joel’s birthday, we took him to the closest thing we have to a beach. And it wasn’t half bad. In fact, it was gorgeous.

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After working up an appetite at the “beach”, we took Joel to his favorite restaurant. Olive Garden.

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But for dessert, there is only one place…

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And to think, this is BEFORE the sugar intake…

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Joel got an MP3 player for his birthday, which apparently was a successfully guarded secret.

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We all ended up full, happy, and exhausted!

Happy Birthday, Joel!

My earliest memories of my Dad are riding up and down Daytona Beach in a Model A Ford and visiting the Sigma Chi Frat House. I am told that when I was a baby and got fussy he would lay me on his chest, and I would fall asleep easily. As I grew older, I was sure my dad had hung the moon in its place. I guess every girl thinks that way about her dad.

When I was very little, my dad was off flying Hueys in Viet Nam. He doesn’t talk about that much,and I know it was really hard for him. But, Dad, I am so proud of you for doing your best over there.
My parents divorce deprived me of having my Dad in my life on a daily basis. However, to me, Dad was a fixed point, calm, stable, safe. We visited him nearly every summer. First in San Francisco where he took us to Fisherman’s Wharf and Ghiradelli Square. He also introduced my sister and me to Ramen Noodles, which we could not get enough of. So, one weekend, he and my stepmom planned a Ramen Noodle feast. They  fixed it up like stir fried rice and made a fancy meal out of it. I thought that was just the neatest thing. Another thing they had in San Fran were these fold out foam matresses called “yos”. We used to fold them up and slide down the stairwell in the house in Fort Mason.
After retiring from the army, Dad moved to Florida where my stepmom’s famliy lived. I loved visiting Florida. There was a lot to see and do. And you cannot get truly fresh mangoes anywhere else in the US. We would help dad clean the pool and have family bingo nights where we each made a special dish. My sister made a broccoli quiche, and I made a cherry cheesecake. We had a great time catching the lizards on the rocks, driving through Alligator Alley, and visiting my stepmom’s relatives. And, of course, every road trip meant Jimmy Buffet, Neil Diamond, and Kenny Rogers on the radio in the Z.
Some people have said that it’s easy to be a great parent for  2 weeks or so out of the whole year, but it really doesn’t matter. The effect on me was the same as if he had been a good parent all year long. We did live with my dad for a whole year when my sister and I were 12 and 13 and things weren’t much different. My dad wasn’t perfect. He would blow it, lose his cool, rant, cuss a bit. But that wasn’t the norm. And he ALWAYS came back and apologized, doing his best to restore the relationship. My Dad treated me with respect. He never talked down to me or belittled me. He expected great things of me and yet accepted me just the way I was. He always built me up and encouraged me. I never wanted to let him down in any way.
I admire and respect you, Dad. And love you more than you’ll ever know.
Happy Birthday.
Love,
Karen

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My earliest memories of my Dad are of riding up and down Daytona Beach in a Model A Ford and visiting the Sigma Chi Frat House. I am told that when I was a baby and got fussy he would lay me on his chest, and I would fall asleep easily. As I grew older, I was sure my dad had hung the moon in its place. I guess every girl thinks that way about her dad.

When I was very little, my dad was off flying Hueys in Viet Nam. He doesn’t talk about that much, and I know it was really hard for him. But, Dad, I am so proud of you for doing your best over there.

My parent’s divorce deprived me of having my Dad in my life on a daily basis. However, to me, Dad was a fixed point, calm, stable, safe. We visited him nearly every summer. First in San Francisco where he took us to Fisherman’s Wharf and Ghiradelli Square. He also introduced my sister and me to Ramen Noodles, which we could not get enough of. So, one weekend, he and my stepmom planned a Ramen Noodle feast. They  fixed it up like stir fried rice and made a fancy meal out of it. I thought that was just the neatest thing. Another thing they had in San Fran were these fold out foam matresses called “yos”. We used to fold them up and slide down the stairwell in the house in Fort Mason.

After retiring from the army, Dad moved to Florida where my stepmom’s famliy lived. I loved visiting Florida. There was a lot to see and do. (And you cannot get truly fresh mangoes anywhere else in the US.) We would help dad clean the pool and then have family bingo nights where we each made a special dish. My sister made a broccoli quiche, and I made a cherry cheesecake. We had a great time catching the lizards on the rocks, driving through Alligator Alley, and visiting my stepmom’s relatives. And, of course, every road trip meant Jimmy Buffet, Neil Diamond, and Kenny Rogers on the radio in the Z.

Some people have said that it’s easy to be a great parent for  2 weeks or so out of the whole year, but it really doesn’t matter. The effect on me was the same as if he had been a good parent all year long. We did live with my dad for a  year when my sister and I were 12 and 13, and things weren’t much different. My dad wasn’t perfect. He would blow it, lose his cool, rant, cuss a bit. But that wasn’t the norm. And he ALWAYS came back and apologized, doing his best to restore the relationship. My Dad treated me with respect. He never talked down to me or belittled me. He expected great things of me and yet accepted me just the way I was. He always built me up and encouraged me. I never wanted to let him down in any way and still feel that way today.

I admire and respect you, Dad. And love you more than you’ll ever know. You have been an awesome Dad.

Happy Birthday.

Love,

Karen

And I really can’t believe it. Although, there are times when he seems more like 25. He’s pretty level-headed, usually responsible, and has a great attitude about life. Some folks say the teenage years are trying, and while we have our trying moments, I have to say that I have really enjoyed how my relationship with my older kids has evolved since they have become teenagers.

Anyway, the plan is for all of us to kidnap Joel, blindfold him, take him to swim at the lake, then head over to Krispy Kreme just as the fresh, hot doughnuts are rolling off the glazing belt. But he doesn’t know anytihng about this, so, shhhhhh.

Pictures coming later.

About 12 years ago we rented a house down the street from a colleague of mine. They had kids. We had kids. They homeschooled. We homeschooled. We all had common interests. After a few years, we moved away. Then they moved farther away.  We’ve kept in touch off and on.  But’s what’s been really neat is to see how their kids, who were older than mine, have started turning out. Their oldest has been in town for the summer, and we had him over for dinner.

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He brought Cool Ranch Doritos and was an instant hit. INSTANT, I tell you. Because all beings with a Y chromosome love Cool Ranch Doritos.

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This guy was a baby the last time our families had seen each other.  When our neighbors moved away, they gave us their wooden swingset, which we were very grateful to have.

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It’s still gets a lot of use. They also gave us a large Ficus tree. My neighbor had been given the plant in the hospital when she had her firstborn.

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Now their oldest is nearly 22 and so is this amazing tree. It’s our Christmas tree every year.

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Here’s all of ours; the younger half were born after we moved away.

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Everyone had a great time, and it was fun to reconnect with old friends.

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This last shot is for you, Kelly. It’s got you written all over it.

We love and miss you all.